What kind of Mistress am I?
That is a question that is simply not possible to answer in a few words. I like to be able to chat to My subs after a session – and during if its appropriate – and yet snap them instantly back into submission with an instruction or action.
Sometimes this can be off putting as a concept and some slaves like to have the sub side of their personality dealt with when wearing a collar and others accept that stepping out of persona is acceptable. It is advantageous though when something needs verifying – will the makeup stain you? Or if you have a health query during play for example or suddenly remember that its your annual medical tomorrow.
I am a lifestyle Dominatrix – This means that I am naturally Dominant. The kinky powerful thoughts and scenarios I dream up are with Me all the time. Luckily Domination is something I adore and gives Me genuine pleasure to the extent that I am not shy in telling a sub that I do not wish to see them again as they simply don’t give enough back. This said I also understand a first meeting can be very difficult and nerves are jangling as you step through the thresh-hold handing over your soul and sanity to a woman you do not know and only pray turns out to be the Domme of your fantasies and not a crazed nutter!
Before a session I would want you to state what you really fantasise about. Not in a way that reads like a script but in a deep and meaningful soul searching way. Do not ask Me ‘what are you going to do to me’ as this rings alarms within My head and screams ‘wank seeker desperate to get off on words alone. After your first session then you can ask if I have plans for you by all means. Comunication is the key to any happy and fulfilling relationship.
If you desire a Mistress who treats you like shit, kicks hell out of you and puts you in a corner to wank before pointing at the door whilst counting her cash then that isn’t Me. I like to use the most sensual part of the body – mind play – I can hurt you, inflict pain in extreme amounts but equally the soft touch of a gloved hand will be like electricity flooding through you – throwing your brain into tilt mode.
Stern, harsh sessions are fun, with everything you say or do resulting in chastisement. Being left to feel that you can do absolutely nothing right, humiliated to the core. Unable to say what you mean as you are constantly interrupted and unable to communicate effectively with ‘Yes Mistress’ answers to the rhetorical questions I fire at you. Let Me know if you desire to feel such intimidation.
I love the extremes of CBT to dressing a sissy in silk and have her dust and polish on bended knee.
The pace that the session moves along at is different for every slave, sometimes I think that slave needs to absorb the feelings and compute them in his head whilst others need complete sensory overload to push them into a deep happy place.
Being realistic with your expectations will help. I won’t arrange a forced bisexual experience for someone I have not met in a normal session – there are parties held for just this fantasy to be enacted. Don’t think that I will perform Olympic speed spanking, anal, vacc bed, bondage and cross dressing within an hour as its just a) not possible and b) not enjoyable. Have a ‘list’ of things you fancy, ideas from the blog – even email and say that blog about so and so really got to me……
Nor will body worship be available to slaves. My body should be admired, My seductive curves create fantasies that you can confess to in future sessions to be corrected for. If I chose to reward a slave by allowing him to lick My nipple or massage My shoulders that is My choice and desire and will certainly not be done at the slaves request. My long stockinged legs, cleavage, foot wear and Dominatrix outfits should be seen as erotic, scene setting stuff of fantasies – I could Domme you in jeans and a T-shirt but like to make the effort to look sexy and powerful to your nakedness.
I want to create and build relationships with clients, knowing about your life and limitations makes it all easier. Being able to say ‘Mistress I’ve had a crap week at work and the mother in law is staying this weekend’ can be uplifting. The personal stuff stays in My head and believe Me when I tell you that I have been in this business long enough to know that I still want to be Domming at 80 and have no desire to make quick money blackmailing anyone with pictures or info……. What you have to ask yourself is can I trust this Mistress? Does Her reputation speak for itself?
Incidently I do offer blackmailing as a service but its on a fun level!
Anyone visiting a Mistress who threatens to blackmail them should go straight to the police. Those people are not Dominatrices but money grabbing bitches who bring shame on the name of good Mistresses.
I like to have a few ideas about how a session will unfold but do tend to just go with whatever is happening – if we end on a different path because its working then so be it. I will not work to an itinery.
Some people believe that by paying for a service they are ultimately in charge. Not so with Me – I will not dance to any tune……. happy to incorporate your stuff into a session but don’t write Me a script or you may just get to eat it!
It is important to Me that you enjoy the session and I want you to be able to say – this isn’t doing it for me if you need to. However I am pretty good at reading body language and worming My way into your submissive soul and feel less than satisfied if I don’t manage to get you to sub-space by the end of the session. That is My reward, knowing My power has touched you to the core.
After a session I expect a friendly polite email and if you wish to become one of My stable keep in contact regularly with Me. Even if you can only session twice a year – let Me know.